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Is people pleasing a lousy habit or is there something more in it?
Are you a people pleaser and pretty sick of being that? Do you know how it started and why? Well, this is something I've been struggling with for some time now, and I am on my way to understand better how we start pleasing people and how we can end it.
Maybe my own story is a good beginning of this small investigation I am into today.
Psychology says that people-pleasing is a response to trauma, but it is not much discussed and maybe not as popular as others. Why am I saying it? Sometimes, pleasing people makes us feel like we are doing great things for others, making their wishes come true, and loving unselfishly. It feels like we are best friends, kids, partners, and parents, but at what point does it become people-pleasing?
Don't get me wrong, it is the best feeling being there for the loved ones and doing things for them. However, I would like to confront this and question, where is the line? When loving and caring for others turn into pleasing, and why do we humans do that?
From a great kid to an insecure adult
